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Ending Holiday Stress
Ending Holiday Stress
You might remember the day Santa Claus brought you your first
bicycle. It had green handlebars and seemed to shine under the Christmas tree
lights.
It was hard to believe that the present of your dreams had
actually arrived.
You knew you would always remember it as the best Christmas
ever.
Fast forward a few years. It is Christmas week, and you are a
basket case. You do not think you will ever be able to finish all the shopping, the wrapping,
and the decorating in time for the big day.
You also have visits to make, cards to send, and donations to mail
out. You are dealing with full fledged Christmas stress, and it shows no signs of
abating.
The stress of the holiday season can be trying in the best of
circumstances.
But if you are dealing with other major stressors, such as the
recent death of a loved one, holiday stress can seem unbearable. You might be so tense that
you cannot enjoy any holiday-related activities.
You might snap at your children or your spouse, and you might find
yourself unable to focus at work.
There are many causes of holiday stress. To begin with, you might
be striving to fulfill unrealistic expectations.
You might have a perfect postcard view of the holidays a vision
that no human being could expect to realize. Your impressions of holidays might have been
formed by the movies, where families gather around a tree and sing Christmas carols in
perfect harmony.
Another common cause of holiday stress is having too many people
on your Christmas list. You might expect yourself to buy for not only members of your
immediate family, but also for teachers, friends, distant relatives, and
co-workers.
You do not want to leave anyone out, so you create a list that
even Santa Claus would find difficult to fill.
You might also be suffering from the stressed out host syndrome.
You might have been elected to hold Christmas festivities at your house, and you are
panicked.
You are striving to decorate the house, trim the tree, grocery
shop, bake cookies, and prepare fudge. You do not know when you will have time to string the
lights in front of your house, or to mount the Christmas cards on the fireplace.
Family members might be contributing to your stress. Your children
might be demanding the latest video games, even though you are budget will never accommodate
them.
Your mate might be demanding that you increase your share of the
holiday chores. Your parents might be demanding to stay a week or more at your house,
creating further tension for your household.
The fact is, you can enjoy the holidays while reducing your stress
level considerably. This begins with engaging in some pre-holiday planning.
Write a list of your goals for the holidays. What do you really
want to accomplish this year? What can you realistically do on your own, and what will you
need help with? Putting your aims in writing can help to give you some peace of
mind.
It is also important that you set your own agenda for the
holidays. Do not let other people dictate the agenda for you. In this way, you can ensure
that your needs are met, before you attempt to fulfill the needs of others.
Chances are, your goals are not to buy presents for everyone you
have ever met or to get out every decoration you have ever owned. Rather, your goal is
probably to have a safe, festive holiday where you, your family and friends can enjoy the
festivities.
Realizing what your true goal is, and mapping out a way to get
there, can help to reduce your stress.
There is no denying that holidays make additional demands on your
time. However, through appropriate time-management techniques, you can work to ensure that
you are not overwhelmed by responsibilities.
If you have a difficult task to face, consider enlisting the aid
of family and friends. Sharing the load can reduce your stress level remarkably.
Also, you have to strike the idea that you must have the perfect
holiday. Instead, strive to create a holiday that is good enough good enough to make you
smile good enough to bring joy to your loved ones.
Also, spend at least part of your holiday preparations doing some
good for someone in need. You will find the experience rewarding and it should help you to
better cope with holiday demands.
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